My wife and I got an argument a few weeks ago. Nothing violent, but nonetheless a pretty bad argument. We both had been drinking. I called the Veteran’s crisis line to go to detox. I had a moment of clarity and saw Alcohol was ruining my life. So I made one of the hardest phone calls I have ever made.

6 Sheriff’s show up. I tell them they are not allowed in the house. They walk right in. Start asking my wife 600 ways from Sunday if I hit her or harmed her…. I am not a violent man. Then the Sheriffs surrounded me, as if I was John Rambo about take out the entire department. I asked them if they would step back. They asked me to sit. I did. Calm and compliant the entire time. I then asked them if they had no suspicion of a crime that they please leave. An hour later a supervisor comes and starts re-asking the same questions. I answered them politely and then once again asked them to leave if they had no suspicion of a crime.

I called the crisis line back and had to beg to the crisis line to call me ambulance to go to the VA hospital.

The lady on the phone for the crisis. Seemed nice enough. She seemed good at defusing the situation. I wasn’t emotional, she asked to talk to my wife who assured them she was safe. Who also wasn’t emotional.

Like zero indicators of Domestic Violence… except I said me and my wife had gotten into verbal argument.

The Veteran’s Crisis line is just any other BS government run entity. I will never in my life ever ask for help from anything that has to do with the government.

Just remember Vets….. No one is coming to help. Self-rescue is the only option.