my girlfriend is in an all girls friend group. it makes me feel a little self conscious that i don’t have a big group of friends while she does. my only friends are kind of random and scattered, not an organized social group that has to do every activity together. idk if this is just male loneliness, but i feel like the main source of comfort and social interaction is my gf. sometimes that makes me a little self conscious, but honestly i don’t really like parties or big gatherings and i kind of just like being with her. however, i am in college and i unfortunately have to go eat in the dining hall every meal. her friends are insistent on eating together and i sort of have no option but eat with them too unless i am going to leave my girlfriend and sit alone which feels awkward too. while i obviously don’t want to be invited their like- girl group gatherings, i feel really awkward about how much they avoid me and don’t acknowledge me. while dynamics have changed a little recently, it seems like the boyfriends of some of the other girls in the past have been invited to social gatherings with them and have been talked to and acknowledged at the table while i am not. one of them (though he recently broke up with the girl) has even been in their exclusive group chat for a long time and i think still is even though he’s on thin ice for breaking up with her. i don’t understand and have never understood what is wrong with me that i don’t get the same kind of treatment. what am i doing wrong? what do these other girls boyfriends have that i don’t? whenever i sit with them they never even say hi when i sit down or bye when i leave. they act awkward when i speak. my gf often defends them and says that they “just don’t really know me” but i have been sitting with these girls for like TWO YEARS and have even made efforts to hang out with them and be nice. moreover, my gf herself has become increasingly anxious and frustrated with how much they all gossip about each other, ESPECIALLY about boyfriends. she worries that they’re saying things about me, but we both can’t even imagine what they would have to complain about. it bothers me too how weird they are about having these strange rituals like, for example, whenever they’re all done eating they absolute HAVE to all leave at the same time and will awkwardly wait for each other. sometimes they will implicitly insist my gf follow even if i’m not done, leaving me at the table. and honestly sometimes i feel like they don’t even grate her very well. it seems like sometimes they take advantage of her kindness and get really pissy when she doesn’t feel like doing things with them. like for example they made her pay everyone’s full tip when they took my gf out to eat on HER BIRTHDAY. does anyone know what even going on here? i feel like this is some girl thing that i don’t understand. i cant even begin to imagine what they think is so wrong with me.