Since I graduated high school in 2017, I’ve only retained two friends from my high school (my only friends tbh) and they’ve had a long streak of rarely initiating conversations through text, as well as responding literal days after I text them. They’ve told me they’re busy with work and school and life which I completely understand. Naive younger me used to think that’s really the only reason they don’t respond, but now that I’m a bit older and I’ve seen the patterns and details I am a bit more hesitant to accept the whole “I was too busy to respond” or “I saw your text but forgot to reply”. I’ve changed my reason a bit now to thinking that I’m just not a priority in their lives, which is a bit unfortunate but it’s life. I understand that we can’t force ourselves to be the priority in other people’s lives, but it would be a nice change to know that I don’t have to wait 3-30 days to have a conversation with you.

I hope someone can see my point of view here and can sympathize in some way. It’s hard to make new friends as an adult and people are way too flakey nowadays that it’s normal to cancel the day of plans or show up 30 mins - 1 hour late to plans. Or just the process of “what day are you available on your calendar” is just too much to do sometimes and people don’t follow through on what day they’re available.

Thanks for reading in advance haha. As much as I love my friends, I would like to have a conversation with them outside of when it’s only convenient in their time