First and foremost, this message isn’t a desperate act to getting into relationships, its been shower thoughts that have been forming overtime and thought of sharing and discussing it with others...

Many of us know that unreasonable situations with no potential are simply not worth the hassle to solve/deal with especially when it doesn’t benefit yourself. Its like daily driving an old bmw which may eventually start giving you problems in the long run. It might gradually start with small issues like a sparkplug or a headlight going out, fixable right? Sure.. welp, the window regulator suddenly dies.. no biggie, it can be replaced. You might think the issues ends right then and there... well guess again because now your transmission starts jumping. You might choose to take it to a mechanic and get it fixed and end up with a hefty hole in your pocket. Now you got yourself a working car, with no issues… yet. You have come to a point where now the engine blows up and debate to either junk it or bust your wallet once again.

“So what does all this mean?”

In the sense of relationships, everyone makes mistakes and its ok to make mistakes as long as you learn them and avoid it in the future. In my case, I’ve made various shots with girls I’ve met throughout my life, and yes, I’ve made mistakes and I believe I’ve improved and corrected alot of my mistakes, including my interactions and physical appearance. Even went through suggestions from people and the internet, watched how people made their shots and what not, the list goes on. Going back to the old car situation, no matter how much you invest on fixing it.. it’ll give you all the problems to imaginable and the best bet in this case is to simply accept the fate and move on and find an alternate solution.

“But dude… what do you mean? You’re just hitting the wrong people.”

Welp, I really hope so… I might be tall, young, fit, kind, communicative, attractive... fill in the blank, just like many have said so, but I’m close to calling it BS because I would’ve been in a relationship already.

“And what about those who are already in relationships? Think on how your dad met your mom.”

Im coming to realize that relationships is not a one size fits all kind of deal, no matter what you do, Its like being accepted to Harvard right off the bat and graduating under a semester with a PHD.

“No dude, you just got to wait, your still young.”

yeah sure, but what about those in their mid 20s or 30s waiting for the right time to come as they might’ve been suggested and yet they’re still single? Not to mention their similar situation im encountering… Don’t get me started with my 40y cousin and my friend’s older brother.

“have you tried tinder?”

Dating apps are simply a well known joke. A lot of the times, people ghost or simply don’t respond. Don’t get me started with the flakers, players and the lack of matches. I have not once met once soul throughout the years I’ve occasionally jumped on and off these apps.

I’m really coming to realize that many of my attempts to a successful relationship is none other than shooting myself on the foot because just like me and many other guys facing the same problem are simply being hurt from continuously being either played, manipulated, rejected, being treated as an option or seen as a sugar daddy which is not only driving us away from relationships but ruins one’s esteem and mental health. Society in this sense (for gen z at least) has gone down the drain these years. I’m no longer trying as I used to anymore, my acceptance of fate is near, which really hurts to say… even if I happen to encounter the nicest, prettiest girl out there, I don’t really expect any connection from them because there’s already that high chance of the same loophole result known for years (dont get me started on this one). My tolerance is drastically declining with girls pulling up with some wack ass “fill in the blank” stunt. Throughout my teenage days to current, I haven’t found any true relationship from anyone and never been in one whatsoever. Yes, it absolutely sucks being in this situation but not everything goes in one’s way, so I’ll just have to bite the bullet and move on like a real grown up. it's like this saying where if you never smoked before, why try it knowing that it's not something that benefits your health and life. I’ve been working out for 2 years now fortunately and look forward on finding happiness elsewhere other than what I’m soon to call fairytale shenanigans.

What do you guys think?