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This is one of those posts that could be a book. There are as many party experiences as their are venues and hosts. So I am going to touch upon a couple of experiences, and then go into detail on only one very recent experience.
ALL SHAPES SIZES FORMS SEX PEOPLE FUN FOOD ON-PREMISE OFF-PREMISE YOU NAME IT
I have been to every type of party you can think of. I have been to off-premise parties where everyone was there to meet others and no sexual activities took place beyond a little flashing and groping. I have been to house parties, where the moment I got in the door, I was given a robe and an hour later I was in the middle of a full-fledged orgy. I have been to parties where you were required to be naked. I have been to parties where I was required to have sex. For those new to the lifestyle, I don't recommend going to any of those types of parties. The point is that there are lots of different party experiences. This includes some you may not be ready for, so always make sure you understand what the party will be like before you attend. Some parties are great for newbies - some are very much not what you would want to attend as a newbie.
PICKING YOUR FIRST PARTY
If you are new to the lifestyle, what I suggest is that your first party is a large "club style" lifestyle parties. And what I look for in a club for newbies is:
- A zero-pressure club and NO MEANS NO
- Nudity is not required
- Couples or solos are not required to play
- Everyone is allowed to stay within their comfort zone
- There is a strict policy to protect everyone's privacy
- The club provides an optional tour and orientation
- The club does not require you to pay until after the tour and only if you decide to stay (a free peak)
- Sheets are changed and mattresses sprayed after EVERY use.
LAST SATURDAY NIGHT - A TYPICAL NIGHT AT A CLUB - EXCEPT IT WAS VALENTINE'S PARTY NIGHT
If you were to take the three top clubs in Vegas, each night you will get a different vibe. Party themes can have a big impact on the vibe. Club hosts and club policies have a big impact on the experience. This party has very busy and the theme was the annual Valentine's Party.
Valentine's Party was a softer romantic vibe and everyone was more dressed up than usual. There was chocolate for dipping strawberries in and people were still having wild horizontal activities up until 4:00 AM.
So what was the evening like? The doors opened at 9:00 - but some people started to show up early. This was mostly to get parking, but a few new couples showed up right at opening so they could take their time on the tour and getting questions ask. The kitchen volunteers outdid themselves with some very yummy finger foods and lots of things to dip into chocolate. And nice big shrimp for shrimp cocktail.
The smell of the chocolate was starting to emerge around the dining area and I was busy sneaking and dipping strawberries when no one was looking... ok I had a chocolate dipped Rice Crispy Treat too. The DJ was playing boring music, slow romantic tunes and I was really hoping for some Snoop Dogg and Dr. Dre as a warm up for the big game the next day. Later on that evening, the music ramped up and I got my wish.
During the first hour, people are arriving, mingling around the bar area and social areas. The hosts are helping people with introductions and the place is rapidly filling up.
By 10:30, with enough liquid courage, we take to the dance floor, triggered by Despacito and some music with a little bump to it. By 11:00 the venue is packed, inside and out. Some couples are starting to explore the "play rooms", others are getting a little food, and you see the hot tub start to get busy. The indoor hot tub always seems to be the first area where people congregate and get naked (though you are not required to get naked and you are not required to play in the hot tub - in fact the hosts would prefer that you do not leave little Navy seaman in the hot tub with a playroom full of mattresses just a few feet away).
By midnight, most of the playrooms are busy. Out on the dance floor - it's Wobble Time! Time for 5 to 6 line dances. This always packs the dance floor to capacity.
After the line dances, the group room starts to get very busy. There are newbies and voyeurs sitting on the benches around the room and a dozen or more people getting busy on the beds. There are still a lot of couples on the dance floor and in the other social areas. A few will sneak back out to the parking lot to partake in a little 420 (not officially condoned by the club, but if it in the parking lot, no one says anything).
Around 1:00 I am making out with this delightful girl and her husband from Salt Lake City. Very sexy and I am soon giving some oral attention to him on the dance floor. But I am volunteering, so I won't be heading off to the rooms yet. Plus it's Valentine's Day and I have the DJ wired so I am getting most of my top 10 songs played. The cleaning volunteers are changing sheets as fast as they can after each use.
By 2:00 -- most of the people planning on playing are going at it. We few from earlier have finished and are at the bar. Some wearing towels, some in robes, a few naked but most wearing clothes. I go check on the Victorian Room and there is a sweet little thing getting flogged by her Dom. Always an interesting site to behold. A few couples who were playing earlier in the night will be slipping off for round 2 (or 3). The dance floor begins to thin out and the first people exhausted from the evening will start heading out.
Sadly at 2:30 - the kitchen volunteers turned off the chocolate for dipping. But not before I filled a small container with strawberries, pineapple and a few other dipped in chocolate treats. The DJ has turned down the music and a few couples want to do Karaoke - so there are a few singing love songs to each other.
3:00 AM - the front doors are locked and no one else is admitted. The playrooms are going strong, but people are wearing out. There are still equal parts of those just watching and those who are having fun with horizontal recreational activities. The club asks that people stop consuming alcohol.
By 4:00 AM, most everyone is done. People are getting dressed. Ordering Uber or Lyft. Have a few snacks that the club leaves out for the end of the evening. People are exchanging contact information and by 4:15 I am out the door, have the seat warmer on high and am on my way home. The cleaning crew arrives to get the place ready for the Super Bowl party the next day.
Kisses, TMW
It can vary from club to club. For most clubs, including most of the Vegas clubs, you bring your bottle, a bartender will market and store it behind the bar. At Whispers, they also have a lot of commercial refrigeration both inside and outside by the pool for beer and other pre-packaged beverages. Most clubs at least offer soda as mixes. Some offer juices too. If you have a specific club you are interested in, I likely have the 411 on the BYOB.
One way to spot the tourist traps is that they offer an open bar, which translates to vodka and a bunch of 2-liter bottles. It is technically against the law in terms of what they are doing.
You will need to confirm this for the club you plan to attend.
Most clubs will have a place to put your alcohol and store it for you. When you need it - they retrieve it, provide a set (cup, ice, mixer of your choice) and then put your bottle back until you need it again. At the end of the night, pick up your bottle before you go home.
At the club I volunteer at, they have a similar situation, plus they have a lot of commercial refrigeration to keep your beer and wine chilled for you.
9 out of 10 clubs in the USA work this way. In Vegas, All of the top clubs are similar in this way.
It's easy to overindulge in these sexually charged environments. I know I did when I first dove into the deep end. So I am a fan of going the pre-packaged beverage route. I can decide how many I plan to drink before I get to the party. This is one way that I don't over indulge at the party. Another thing I will do is bring 3 to 4 miniatures and when those are done, so am I.
Of course that doesn't always work as friends keep handing me shots... and not just Tequila. I have discovered that most any alcohol can make my clothes fall off.
Let me know if you have any additional questions.
Stripping during Karaoke? It's why they call it Clothing Optional Karaoke.
As for the robe. People tend to change clothes over the course of an evening and it would not be the first time someone was there in a robe. During the upcoming NASCAR weekend Whispers has a Robe Rage party, primarily because all of the people coming into town may not have other play theme clothes, so robes are simple.
It's common for people to get quite playful on the dance floor.
I am so glad to hear that! Thank you for letting me know! I had a great time... a little rough getting up Sunday morning.
You are welcome to DM me with additional questions if you like.
The Pool Season for Whispers (and I think for Playhouse) ends the last weekend in September.
Either one will work for you. If you are local and have never been to Whispers before, they will give you a free weekend pass. It's a great no risk way of deciding if the club is right for you.
Personally, I like the seltzers. It's easy to over-indulge at your first lifestyle party. So much to take in, people all around you, a little liquid courage helps, but keeping a level head and not going farther than you planned is part of the best plan you could have going into this.
I am pretty experienced and have been literally to so many parties I cannot count them all. Going almost every weekend for most of my married life. I am still nervous whenever I go to a new club... aside from the usual what will I wear, there is the not knowing what to expect into a sexually charged environment. So I will, depending on mood, time of year, distance from the hotel, take 4 seltzers or 4 bottles of wine (the mini-frig size), or 4 minis of Fireball, and that is my limit. My husband's preference is beer, so he will usually bring a 6-pack for the evening.
Thank you! Very kind of you to say. If you have any questions, please let me know!
Kisses, TMW
The best club that caters specifically to bi males is Club 5150, they are on Pecos in Las Vegas.
Glad to hear you had a great time. Which club were you at?
It's a good place for first-timers. I think it is ideal because there are no single men. Nothing wrong with single men at most clubs, but in Vegas, you get a LOT of out-of-town single men who have nothing to lose by being pushy and aggressive. Most (fortunately not all) of the clubs do everything they can to lure in the single men. There are even a couple of parties that are fronts for prostitution. So always do you homework when you are a first timer going to Las Vegas.
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You are welcome and thank you for your comments. Now to your questions...
Red Rooster is the best place for a MMF type of play. Yes the guys can get too aggressive. So you have to be quick and direct in telling them to back off. If you wife sees someone she wants to play with, you need to do the approach. It is sometimes important to make it clear whether or not you (the male) is bi-sexual. If you are not bi, make sure its included upfront. "We are both straight and my wife would like for us to play with her together".
I do think starting off at Whispers though is the right move. You want her in a zero pressure environment. I always encourage couples to watch and relax and not to try and jump into the deep end of the pool right away. If you are in Vegas during the summer season, the Sunday Pool Parties are great for newbies.
While your wife may not be "cool" with you swapping, at least initially, you might quite easily find a couple where she is willing to play with your wife and her husband and sometimes in the heat of the moment, things can happen. But always communicate. Even if you go back into a play area with another couple. Just ask your wife as things progress, "Honey do you mind if I touch her?" "Honey do you mind if she gives me head"? Your wife needs to feel like she is in control of the situation.
Final thoughts; 1) Make sure to hyper communicate - when you arrive, find a private place to sit and talk about what may be coming up that evening. 2) Take things slow, many a relationship has been has wounded and many spouses turned off to the lifestyle because things progress to fast or you ended up at a bad or too advanced of a party. 3) Communicate while you are in the play areas. This can be for your benefit as well.