Im curious if any of you have ever had a true friendship like Tim and Rachel's where there was an honest friendship with no sexual chemistry or tension. I don't believe that's really a thing to be that close with just a friend you don't want to or plan to bone, especially if you are currently in a relationship.

I think it's very strange how the cast all thought it was a normal friendship before the affair came out. I've never seen a friendship like that.

My reasons: I've had many many guy friends over the years when I was in my first 11 year relationship and again in my second 11 year relationship. Some I would even call bestfriends. They were people I picked up in HS or younger. But we didn't hang out exclusively without our partners really but a few times in group settings or with our kids or once we had a lunch date when we were both working in the same area. We didn't chat constantly everyday like I did with my girl friends.

I've also had some male best friends from HS and in between my second relationship that wanted to fckk me. And a few times we did fckk. We very much behaved the way Tim and Rachel did. Very flirty, handy, etc. When I met my current partner I had a bff that I occasionally fckked. He is the one that Introduced me to my partner now and we completely stopped messing around when I got with my guy, but we were probably way to familiar with each other in people's opinions.

I say all that to say I've had guy friends, I know it's possible but we never behaved the way they did unless we were wanting to fckk or had fckked in the past.

I also never made a new close guy friend when I was in a long term relationship. Certainly not one where we went and did things that would be considered a couples thing, or going out dancing alone together, or eating together, or costumes, or sleepovers, or being the 3rd wheel doing mushrooms til the sun came up, or sitting on their shoulders at shows, or like anything that. Anytime I was in a tripping situation with the opposite sex we either were dating, knew each other for 15 years, had fckked and we're friends now, or wanted to fckk, or you were friends with my guy.

So I'm asking have any of you ever had a newer friendship with the opposite sex with that was so intimate and it was "just friends"?

Do friendships like that exist that are so intimate with actual middle aged adults? I don't believe they do. I believe there is always an ulterior motive on one of the friends part of you are acting that close.

But I've never been a single adult, so maybe I'm wrong idk.