In the age of transience, connections are formed, built and lost at a much faster pace than I have been able to keep up with for much of my life. As someone who is growing to come to terms with that reality, I've been reading up on attachment and reflecting on my own.

In addition to expanding social connections, I want to focus on the existing attachments I already do have and get clear on how I want to integrate those into my present and future. I want to get better at the part of a relationship (friendship, acquaintanceship, partnership) I am responsible for: myself and my part of the connection.

My hope here is finding someone else who has been on that journey of learning about their own attachment/ways of relating and have that sense of inner curiosity about themselves (even when self-love is hard). A therapist also told me that the best way to work on attachment wounds is in a present attachment with someone - I'd like to discuss.

My brain's coming up empty for how I'd like to term the connection I'm seeking - not quite support and group reflection, not quite parallel play, but approximating a blend. With others who've thought about this for some time as well about themselves: I'm not sure if I'll ever get that great friendship/partnership(s)/other connection. What I do with this reality then? How do I let go of that to focus on addressing my wounds myself while handling all my other existing attachments? What are some coping strategies for when existing attachments trigger a wound? What exactly is my wound?

For myself, I'd like to come to terms that I may never have the best friends or the relationships that soothe my attachment wounds. It's ironic but I'm learning about attachment to let go of my attachment compulsions. Yes, I'm familiar with stoicism but am struggling to blend a balance into practice.

For a more concrete resource, someone who's also tuned into Stephanie Rigg's 'On Attachment' episodes could be a good start. We could share resources and talk about our perspectives about attachment-related topics.

For reference, I'm INFP, please also share your MBTI if interested. With enough interest, I was thinking of setting up a small virtual group and vetting the members prior to admission.