About Us:

24M, 23F Filipino couple. I am 5’11, 6.2x5.5 inches. She is 5’0, 36D. We’re respectful, communicative, and prioritize clear boundaries in all aspects of our relationships. We’re both routinely tested and clean, and we expect the same from any potential partners. We’re relatively new to the lifestyle and are looking for couples who are patient, understanding, and willing to grow with us as we explore this dynamic together.

Our Experiences & What We’ve Learned:

First Experience:

Our first time swinging was with an older, more experienced couple. While we ended up doing a full swap in separate rooms, we realized afterward that we didn’t communicate our wants, needs, and desires as much as we should have. As the husband, I felt uncomfortable and dragged into it at times, but I didn’t voice my concerns clearly. This taught us the importance of setting clear expectations, speaking up when something feels off, and checking in throughout the experience. After that experience, the couple decided to move forward due to the lack of experience on our end, and after they sensed that I was not as interested in it as my wife was at the time. The couple also chose to move forward as they were looking for a bisexual male. Even though we lost them as swinging partners, we’re grateful for the experience because it taught us how to approach kinkier play in a safe, respectful manner and highlighted the importance of constant communication. We could not have asked for a better first experience as it showed us the difference between right and wrong from the start. We learned a lot from them through the conversation we had while we got drinks before heading to their place.

Second Experience:

Our second experience was with a couple who initially wanted a soft swap, with the women playing together while the men watched. At dinner beforehand, the male partner mentioned that his boundaries and comfort level could change as long as his girlfriend was okay with it. I repeatedly asked him to not be vague, and he dismissed these worries from our end because he claimed to have experienced in the past and he said again that as long as his girl was having fun, he was okay with it. He mentioned that since my wife and I are Filipino and his girlfriend is Filipina, that some of the boundaries and preferences he had are flexible since she’s taken a liking to us. This stuck with us, and later in the bedroom, we asked him if it was okay for us to direct things as has mentioned to us that he was normally submissive, but a switch to his girlfriend. We reminded him of his earlier comment and shared that we operate similarly—if everyone is comfortable, we’re open to exploring further. We would not normally be okay with hard swaps, or having each other play separately, but with the right couple and individuals (i.e. like the first couple we played with who constantly asked us how we were feeling and if what they were doing was okay), we would be way more open to doing things that we normally would not do.

When the moment felt right, we asked his girlfriend if she was okay with penetration, and she said yes. Her boyfriend also checked in with her to confirm she was comfortable, and he gave the green light. Throughout the experience, we made sure to check in repeatedly with both of them, asking if they were okay, if we were hurting anyone, and if they were still comfortable with everything. The women spent the first two-thirds of the time playing with each other, and we swapped partners multiple times. There were times when his girlfriend was giving head to us and he was fingering her from the back, and there were times when she was being penetrated while going down on us also, and there were times the wife was going down on him while he was in touch with his girlfriend.

However, toward the end, his girlfriend needed to use the bathroom. While she was gone, we sensed the guy was becoming uncomfortable, so we initiated a conversation to check in with him. Out of respect for his feelings, we decided to stop the interaction entirely, even though we could have continued after she returned.

What hurt us afterward was that the guy made it seem like we never swapped back partners, even though we had done so several times. He also projected his discomfort onto his girlfriend, claiming she was in pain during the experience, even though she later admitted to us that she had a great time and wasn’t in pain at all.

The Next Day:

We invited both him and his girlfriend to spend time with us the next day so that we can debrief. He declined, and also stated to his girlfriend that they were broken up and that she was free to do whatever she wanted. During this time, she was completely comfortable, not in any pain or discomfort, and was able to fully enjoy herself without holding back. She even mentioned that while I was bigger and could reach spots her boyfriend couldn’t, she still loved him and wouldn’t leave him for anyone. We asked her this specifically because we wanted her to communicate to her boyfriend that just because she enjoyed the experience with us didn’t mean she loved him any less or would leave him for others. She also agreed that we checked with her several times the previous day and that we were respectful throughout that day also.

We also thought it would be a great idea for future experiences to involve a dynamic where I could engage with her for 5-10 minutes until she reached her limit and she could get her cervix/anterior fornix stimulated with my length, and then her boyfriend could take her to orgasm. This way, she could enjoy her cervix stimulated, not have her cramping for hours, and her boyfriend could still feel involved and valued and not be cucked as he is the one to make her finish. We also thought of ways with his girlfriend to make him more involved in the future, as we all knew that the breakup was just because he was lashing out and not actually because he wanted to separate from her as she made it clear to us that she would not leave him under any circumstances and that she wanted to be friends with us because of the Filipino connection there.

Cucking Dynamics:

While neither my wife nor I are into being cucked by guys or girls, we have no problem participating in cucking dynamics for other couples—as long as all parties are on the same page. We want to avoid a repeat of our second experience, where the guy felt cucked even though that wasn’t our intention. He didn’t raise his voice or say anything in the moment, which led to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. For us, cucking is only on the table if it’s explicitly discussed, agreed upon, and communicated throughout the experience.

What We’re Looking For:

We’re interested in connecting with like-minded couples who value open communication, enthusiastic consent, and mutual respect. We’re open to hard swapping but prefer to keep things relatively vanilla as we continue to learn and grow in the lifestyle. Our ideal partners are those who can communicate their boundaries clearly and respect ours, as we’ve learned from past experiences how important this is.

Our Boundaries & Preferences:

No cucking or domination directed towards us (but my wife is okay with wearing a strap-on and penetrating both men and women).

Impact play is a turn-on for me, but we’re still exploring this and learning how to do so safely.

While I’m straight, I’m comfortable directing another guy to please both his partner and my wife, as long as everyone is on board.

We’re looking for couples who are also interested in building a friendship outside the bedroom.

We’re particularly interested in connecting with other Asian couples around our age, as we’d love to share cultural experiences and build a deeper connection.

Things We Want to Try:

My wife riding someone while giving me head.

Someone riding me while kissing my wife.

Spit-roasting both my wife and your partner.

Double penetrating your partner with you.

My wife wearing a strap-on and penetrating our play partners.

Directing scenes and recording (with full consent and blurred faces).

Exploring impact play, wax play, and dirty talk in the future.

We’re also open to the idea of my wife playing separately with another couple if I’m away for work, as long as there’s trust and clear communication.

Our Rules:

No means no, and we expect the same level of respect in return.

Submissiveness is not an excuse for not communicating discomfort, we’ll always check in throughout the experience to ensure everyone is comfortable and enthusiastic but we also cannot read minds.

We’re not interested in pushy or overly aggressive partners.

Moving forward, we’re implementing a “no penetration on the first visit” rule. This is to ensure that all parties are comfortable and on the same page before taking things further.

We’re looking for couples who are fun, respectful, and open to building a connection both inside and outside the bedroom. If you’re someone who values clear communication, mutual respect, and a laid-back approach to exploring this lifestyle, we’d love to hear from you. Let’s take things slow, have fun, and create memorable experiences together!

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