Dear you,

It must be tiring for you. See, I understand; there's three main facets to expectation.

The first, all the formative years, where our family and loved ones build up this mass of vicarious desires and goals for us. We have no idea what's being piled on top of us, but it's happening all the time. The more we mature, the more we realise what everyone's been doing this whole time. It's hard to carry isn't it?

The second is part of being an adult. It's the choice you make: whether you decide to keep carrying this burden, or unshackle yourself from it and live your own life. This choice comes with a series of collaterals: some people will think less of you for dumping their vicarious dreams, others will love you regardless.

The last is the most important, and I get why you don't get it yet. The third is whether we choose to break the cycle or not. That's right, whether we pile our hopes, our dreams and our expectations on others in the way it happened to us.

If you expect others to do, pray for others to make things happen instead of doing it yourself, construct ideas in your mind about how you can no longer do and it's someone else's obligation to act instead of yours... are you really living, or are you an armchair exister?

Life isn't a spectator sport. Be an adult, and own your decisions. This means your inactions as much as your actions.

Fear isn't the mind-killer. It's the disease that infests the fruit of life.

Stop projecting your expectations onto others. Do what you want with your life, or in the absence of that, accept that your disease is there and resolve not to spread that disease to others.

Adults don't look at others in expectation; they roll up their sleeves and do it themselves.

Are you an adult, or a child in an adult's body?