Dear sugartits,

The entire time we were together, I had to bite my tongue on so many things. But since we're done and there's zero chance of ever salvaging anything, you get it all.

Your mom is a piece of shit! How do you still have a relationship with her? She literally pimped you out to Bill! She knew he forced you to watch porn with him. She knew he forced you to watch him masturbate. She knew he touched you and digitally penetrated you. She knew he hid cameras to spy on you and your sister. All so that she could financially get ahead in life. You know she knew about it. When you confronted her, she defended him and called you a liar. Instead of taking the aide of her own child and wanting to protect you, she allowed everything to happen to you so she could benefit from it. You say she's too dumb to understand, but she isn't. She knows exactly what happened and she didn't give a shit about you and Jen. What the fuck is wrong with you???

The first 2 years of our relationship were great. I had my space, you had yours. But when we moved in together, I should have seen the flags from day one. When you wouldn't let me help decorate because my 'artifacts' weren't nice enough for the house, I should have put my foot down. When you crammed everything of value to me into the front room, isolated so nobody could see anything, I should've stopped you. When I brought it up in counseling that you're trying to force me and our relationship to be the fairy tale you had in your mind, I should've known then that this wasnt going ro work. You can deny all you want that's what you were doing, but it is what you were doing. Every step of the way. It even got to the point where you denied my needs and used meeting them as an incentive to conform to what you wanted.

I sacrificed for you, for the family we were bringing together. I gave up my home and bought a new one for us to start fresh. I gave up pets, my personal belongings, friends... what did you give up? Nothing. Instead, you refused to help me when I needed it the most. You couldn't even give me a hug when I needed it. Even after our counselor told you that you needed to. You manipulated me, your kids and our home to conform to the fairly tale family you had in your head. You would say things like 'this isn't how a relationship is supposed to be'. But how do you know? Was it from watching your parents marriage fall apart? Was it your mom pimping out you and Jen? Was it the failed relationship with K's dad? Was it your failed marriage to Michael? How do you know when you've never had a good example nor experience?

Instead, you withheld sex, you withheld compassion, you withheld sympathy. You used me to get ahead in life and tried to make me into someone I'm not by incentivising meeting my needs.

You are 90% responsible for your kids problems. You stayed with Michael when he cheated on you every day. You stayed with Michael when he would drink for days on end, passing out in his own piss and vomit. You exposed your kids to that. You stayed with Michael when he would bring women home, oarade them through the house in front of you and the kids, fuck them and then walk them out the door. How could you do this? How could you allow your kids to see this? But when everyone sees the mother you had, it's understandable. When you did finally leave, Michael followed you. And what did you do? You continued to let your kids be exposed to his behavior. You allowed your kids to see him try and kill himself multiple times. YOU are the reason your kids are screwed up. In the last 2 years, they have done 1000 times better when we were a family and had stability. Jordyn hated it because she thrived on the drama. You even admit it. Logan was doing awesome! Except that you couldn't let him off your tit.

Jordyn is never going to have aormal relationship with a male in her entire life. She watched how you allowed her dad to shit on you every day. So now, she has control issues. You coddle and baby Logan so much, that he is never going to know how to navigate a normal male-female relationship. You've created a co-dependancy with him that is extremely unhealthy. It's a good thing you and Lana are great friends. You're going to bond even more when Owen and Logan struggle for the rest ofbtheir lives to be normal functioning human beings. I just hope that he doesn't turn into a psycopath. I hope he doesn't physically hurt women that reject him.

You need to Google 'how single mothers ruin their sons'. You fit into every category. I tried, and tried, and tried to get you to stop those behaviors. I tried to explain what you were doing and what rhe results are going to be. But you refuse to acknowledge it. You justify your behavior. You can't give up the control of being a single mother. You can't give up struggling. It's all you know and it scares you to do and be anything but a single mother. Even to the point that you ruined our future because I couldn't be the perfect puzzle piece to fit into the fairy tale.

Here's one example: you can't let Logan learn how to manage time and responsibilities. You go in every morning and crawl into bed with him and wake him up. You make sure he has breakfast waiting on him, you make sure his clothes are set out, you make sure his backpack is ready to go. You make sure he is dressed, teeth brushed and ready to go by a certain time. Instead of forcing him to grow up and face his fears of walking to the end of the street and riding the school bus, you drive him to school. The complete opposite direction you have to go for work. He doesnt learn social interaction skills outside of the school environment because of you. You cripple his growth as a human every day by starting his day like this. He is 11 years old and this is not normal for an 11 year old. This is you being fearful of him not needing you. This is you not being able to give up control and letting him grow up. Remember when I showed you the MadTV clip of Stuart??? That's your future! That's the path you are on!

I gave you a 16 page letter listing off every detail of everything you did to hurt me. It listed everything you did that destroyed what we could've had. Everything from your shithead husband's last name being on my cats remains, you knowing it was wrong and was going to be a problem but you didn't care enough to get it fixed... to you forcing your fairy tale expectations on me, our relationship and our home... to how you are destroying your kids future. I hope you read it all. I hope you use it to learn what not to do in the future to ruin your kids and future relationships. I hope that you are still going to counseling and you take that letter with you and tell your counselor about every bit of it.

I want so badly to make you pay for all the pain you've caused me, for everything I sacrificed for you and your kids. I want to destroy everything around you for you to understand what you've done. Ut it will only hurt your kids even more than what you already have, and they deserve better.

Good luck.