the important players here are my mother (49f), siblings (17m and 21f) and two relatives (15f and 17m) and me (under 18 as well). for privacy i’m not gonna mention the relation they have to us. what matters is that i want these people out of our house. it’s important to mention their mother is not in the country. when their father was incarcerated in august, my mother fought with the father’s girlfriend and his family so that they could come live with us since their mother insisted that they come live with us since this was the safest and most stable option (we all agreed as a family).

the problems started almost immediately. the four of us (mom and siblings and i) keep a very clean house, were very neat and tidy. we also all have very busy schedules and this has all been disrupted by the arrival of these guests. they contribute nothing to the household. all they do is lounge around, make messes, eat everything, let their pets (that they brought without asking!!) make messes all over our yard. they have even brought their animals inside when my mother clearly stated they were to be outside only. the house is a disaster. ever since moving in, they have lied to and disrespected my mother and they hit my poor little elderly dog too. my mom has a demanding work schedule and she has little energy during the day to put a stop to this behavior. they each sleep in one of my siblings rooms. the girl with the girl and the boy with the boy. they have very poor hygiene habits and this only adds to the mess in the house (they smell). especially the younger one, who only showers twice a week.

don’t get me wrong, i love these people and we were once as close as siblings but now they have become leeches that are using us and ruining our house (literally- damaging paint and spilling on the ground) they have used up and/or ruined our nice things and then complained about the less nice alternatives. they are also very rude and have very bad manners and attitudes. the younger one is nosy and comes in to listen when someone is discussing private matters, the older one i am fairly certain uses my hygiene products (im a girl??). i will add to this that my mother is now supporting six people on minimum wage and it’s putting a strain on everything, especially since the younger one is obese and eats a lot of food. she is also very catty and apathetic. she loves drama and gossip and enjoys watching my sister and i argue. i believe she also has resentment for us because my sister and i are a healthy weight and we are close, unlike she and her sister who she also resents for being thin (the poor kid is 7, lives with her mother)

they have the option of moving in with their fathers girlfriend or some of their family from out of town. we believe they are choosing to stay here because honestly we have created a pretty nice place to be and my mother is pretty lenient with them/ has no energy to parent them. i am unsure if they know they are unwelcome and stay for all the privileges they are granted here (my mom pays for their cell service) or if they simply don’t understand that they are being terrible to us because of my mom’s initial insistence for them to come here. they are minors. she cannot just kick them out onto the street.

TLDR we wanted to create a safe space for these two relatives when they are going through this incredibly difficult time in their life. they have unfortunately done every possible rude thing a houseguest can do and are showing no signs of leaving. i’m sorry if i come off as whiny but i just need a space to vent and i just want my regular (clean!) life back. i’m very saddened by the ruined relationship with these two relatives that i was once very close to. however circumstances have turned them into rude ungrateful people and i want them out of our house. any ideas on how to get them to leave without openly screaming at them the get the fck out like i’ve been itching to do? i’ll answer any questions for clarity but pls help :(