The wife and I are both 40, (in the East Midlands) and are wanting to give an MFM a go. Over the last year it's been a lot of talking, role playing and more talking lol. We have come to what our ideal situation looks like, but is it realistic? So my wife is the type that needs to feel comfortable with someone to have sex, so ideally our third is more or less 1 regular guy we befriend, so a friend we fuck occasionally lol. Her words were someone she or I can casually text with a day or two during the week about regular friend stuff, text can be dirty when the mood is right, and like once a month (or twice😈) we hang out and play. Friend does not have to be exclusive to us or anything as long as he tests regularly.

Not sure if that sounds off the wall, hate to start looking for something that doesn't exist and feel let down later.

Thanks!