So background had agreed to meet a guy - details were flaky . He said we can meet today or tomorrow - cool

Fast forward he decides this am he wants to meet today - totally cool but he longs it out to 4pm before confirming

He then wants to meet in a hotel - we both live in the same town, i cant accomodate - i have offspring, he has builders in…

I feel like something is off so i ask him if he has a partner who is unaware at home - he doesnt answer first time and when challenged said he didnt see the question..

I then ask him the question again and he says he does have a partner - from fab but nothing serious

I am still iffy about the hotel meet and tell him so - i mean why spend money when we have homes.. like i could accomodate in a couple of days time

Five / ten mins after this he sends me another msg to say he has booked the hotel for tonight

I am ngl - i sprinted for the hills! I said it wasnt ok to book it straight after i had said i was weirded out - i panicked and blocked him

But now i feel like a bit of an arsehole, he obvs paid for the hotel last minute so i almost felt obligated - but there was a niggle that made me feel unsure

I am very new to swinging and casual sex - still dipping my toes in - is this normal behaviour on fab?

Is there something i can do to prevent this in future. Am i naive or maybe even the asshat 🫣

(I am not the cancelling type usually)