I don't know how to properly format a comment from another post but this was the comment done by u/uci-help that got me through so many bad days and nights.

This is the copy paste:

Welcome to failure!

No, seriously. I was in a place at the university at one point to propose a freshman seminar that would improve the quality of life/mental health/success of incoming freshmen at UCI. My goal was to attack tow of the biggest issues:

1. Not meeting expectations (failing, or not succeeding well enough)
2. Falling down the rabbit hole of procrastination (skipping class, waiting to write that paper at the last moment)

What was controversial about my proposal was that I didn't want to take the "abstinence only" route by telling people to simply "study hard" and "don't procrastinate" because, obviously, that doesn't work! Instead, these were my messages:

• If you want to mentally survive your student career at a university, you need to fail early. That's right-- if you're going to screw up, it's best to do it in classes that don't matter and to learn quickly that it's NOT the end of the world. Your aid won't be cut. No one around you will snort is derision. Failure is intensely personal and you need to fail now or else you won't be able to handle failure later when the stakes are much higher. And you will fail in the future. What matters is how you react to it.
• Everyone procrastinates. Some do it by skipping class and relying on innate skill/intelligence to catch up at the last second. Others just "take a day" and then feel embarrassed about going back to class and feeling behind- so they skip another day. And then another. And then another. (This is where I would go into a sure-fire way to get out of that rut and save your grade for the class before it's too late.)

So, here's my advice. Acknowledge that you didn't perform as well as you you think you should have. Say it. Like, out loud. Tell it to someone in person. The process of verbal admission is incredibly cathartic. Just typing it out on a computer for a bunch of pseudonyms to read isn't enough.

Next, figure out what you could have done better. Anything and everything-- even the stuff that seemed barely possible and re-evaluate whether or not, if/when you try again, you're likely to make those same mistakes. Then commit to whatever changes you find necessary. This will remove a major weight from your shoulders and prepare you to receive your actual grade.

I don't know how to properly format a comment from another post but this was the comment done by u/uci-help that got me through so many bad days and nights.

This is the copy paste:

Welcome to failure!

No, seriously. I was in a place at the university at one point to propose a freshman seminar that would improve the quality of life/mental health/success of incoming freshmen at UCI. My goal was to attack tow of the biggest issues:

1. Not meeting expectations (failing, or not succeeding well enough)
2. Falling down the rabbit hole of procrastination (skipping class, waiting to write that paper at the last moment)

What was controversial about my proposal was that I didn't want to take the "abstinence only" route by telling people to simply "study hard" and "don't procrastinate" because, obviously, that doesn't work! Instead, these were my messages:

• If you want to mentally survive your student career at a university, you need to fail early. That's right-- if you're going to screw up, it's best to do it in classes that don't matter and to learn quickly that it's NOT the end of the world. Your aid won't be cut. No one around you will snort is derision. Failure is intensely personal and you need to fail now or else you won't be able to handle failure later when the stakes are much higher. And you will fail in the future. What matters is how you react to it.
• Everyone procrastinates. Some do it by skipping class and relying on innate skill/intelligence to catch up at the last second. Others just "take a day" and then feel embarrassed about going back to class and feeling behind- so they skip another day. And then another. And then another. (This is where I would go into a sure-fire way to get out of that rut and save your grade for the class before it's too late.)

So, here's my advice. Acknowledge that you didn't perform as well as you you think you should have. Say it. Like, out loud. Tell it to someone in person. The process of verbal admission is incredibly cathartic. Just typing it out on a computer for a bunch of pseudonyms to read isn't enough.

Next, figure out what you could have done better. Anything and everything-- even the stuff that seemed barely possible and re-evaluate whether or not, if/when you try again, you're likely to make those same mistakes. Then commit to whatever changes you find necessary. This will remove a major weight from your shoulders and prepare you to receive your actual grade.