My spouse and I had our yearly medical checkups and I admitted to my doctor that I have no sex drive nor any desire for one. I think I’ve been the one pursuing sex maybe 4 times in our 8 year marriage. My spouse on the other hand, she has a massive sex drive and it’s something we as a couple contend with a lot. So after our checkups we sort of talked and we were BOTH told our sex drive was abnormal. That my lack of one wasn’t healthy and that I should probably be on medication for it. My spouse was told hers was too high and should be put on something to lower it. We don’t plan on following these suggestions and will be getting second opinions but still. Has anyone else had to deal with this. It’s like we have to always have to be receptive to sex but not TOO receptive. It’s like you literally can’t win. I’m sorry I’m just ranting and annoyed at what feels like a kafkaesque catch-22.