I just have to wonder this. Whenever I see posts about masturbation especially, whether it's from a men's or women's POV, it's usually from a POV of being super quick, to relieve stress, or to just "get the job done" and to orgasm as fast as possible, without going ahead and just exploring your body, relaxing into it, understand what you like and what makes you tick. I get that there's a time and place for quickies when you're stressed and need that dopamine hit, but from what I've seen at least, that seems to be a majority of what people want when they pleasure themselves. Meanwhile, when I have the time, I like to just explore and understand myself. Especially now that I'm buying more sex toys, but even those seem to be designed for the one and done crowd.... ugh!