I had a situation last night I’ve never encountered before. Fourth date with a guy and we hadn’t even kissed yet up until last night.

I went to his place for dinner (he cooked). He seemed pretty nervous/stressed about cooking for us, and popped open a bottle of wine. We end up drinking the whole bottle together, and start kissing after dinner. After about 10 min I realize he’s not hard yet. He kept telling me to squeeze really, really hard. Jerking him off and he still doesn’t get hard. Blow him, still not hard. He says he drank too much and he’s stressed because he hasn’t had sex in awhile.

Half hour later, still not hard but seems to expect me to keep trying. He then puts on a movie and it’s getting late so I’m like ok, I have to leave soon. He starts stroking it, trying to get himself hard. Wants me to suck his dick again. A little while later I go to the bathroom with the plan to leave when I get out, and I come out and he has a hard-on. Probably about 2 hours after we first start trying.

He then proceeds to jackhammer. I tell him it’s too deep, and he makes a comment about how he doesn’t have a small penis (you still don’t need to pound my cervix?). Cums after a minute of sex.

I feel like I was too patient? Would you just call it quits after a little while of trying and peace out? I’m sympathetic to all of it - the booze, nervousness, etc. but I feel like he should have went above and beyond for my pleasure under the circumstances? He didn’t even go down on me once, just got me off twice with his hand, which I can do at home.