I love to masturbate and I’m in my early 40’s, definitely at my sexual peak. I remember years ago when I first got my Hitachi magic wand, I could reliably have a huge, perfect, mind blowing and satisfying orgasm every time. The kind of orgasm that feels like being on a drug. The kind that makes me lie back and just feel the pleasure all through myself for a minute straight. I have only ever had these from masturbation, never from sex.

Since then, I’ve gotten into masturbation more, have tried a lot of different toys, and realized there are a lot of different types of orgasms that I can have, but masturbation is not as reliable and a lot of the time I can’t cum. On a positive note, I feel like I do understand my sexuality and turn ons more. But I have performance issues, get all in my head about not cumming, wind up frustrated.

I’ve struggled to find any similar experiences to mine and wonder if other females know what I’m on about. I think I’m most able to cum like that when I have been masturbating less often and I wonder if I should try to figure out how to do a sort of self induced chastity. Less is more? I remember having these orgasms most consistently when I only played with myself 1 or 2 times per week (I’ve been masturbating daily for a couple of years now and I feel it may have messed me up).