Hi, and so a little over a week ago I posted about having some trouble loving myself, both emotionally and physically, but sort of leaning more heavily into the physically part which I was having some issues with. In short, in my now past marriage I had troubles with being able to orgasm with my partner, a lot of our sex was focused towards his pleasure and ultimately having him orgasm, and that had carried on post-divorce where I wasn't able to orgasm during masturbation.

Following the advice from the many lovely people on here that replied to my previous post, I splashed out on some toys that were recommended and over the past few days I've been giving them a try, with a few failed attempts early on but I've been determined to keep going and last night I had my first orgasm in over 18 months, which when typing that out seems quite crazy.

As some mentioned, really making myself feel comfortable, taking my time, listening to my body, my breathing, and focusing in on what feels good and really letting that flow made such a difference, I was less worried about getting to orgasm and just able to enjoy myself and what my body can do again.

I feel like it's such a big milestone for me, sex was something I really enjoyed and was important to me but that fell away in my marriage but now it feels like I'm discovering it all again for the first time.

I'm already blocking out some time to focus on myself more, to learn more about what works for me and my body, and then it's hopefully time to start thinking about how it will all go with a partner.

Anyway, this long-winded post is my way of saying thank you to this community, you've helped this woman get her mojo back and things suddenly seem so much brighter.