I am 21f, single and I'm really interested in going to a sex party kind of place where I can chat to guys and hopefully make out with them and go further if we're both comfortable with that!

I've done some googling and found two places that might be good to visit: Heathrow Abfab and Le Boudior. The problem is I'm not sure about the age of people who go to these things...I don't want to do this stuff with someone a lot older than me so there's no point in me going if everyone is age 30 . Is there somewhere I can go which has people in their 20s?

Judging from what these sex club websites say, single men seem to be "bad" which is a bit confusing for me. I'm fairly heterosexual so single men would probably be my preference. Are there normally single men at these events, or are they banned?

I saw Abfab has a Silks and Skins spa thing, I thought that might be cool but I don't really understand what it is - do people still play there?

My basic requirements for a sex party would be that consent is respected and that there's no phone and camera usage there!

I've also heard of Fever parties but I'm not sure that's a good option for me. I think they include free unlimited alcohol, which increases the ticket price a lot, but I don't drink myself. Also I don't want to play with someone who's drunk.

I can travel a bit out of London if there's better places there but would prefer to stick to London since that's easier. I saw a place called the Vanilla Alternative which might be good?

I would most likely try to find someone from the internet to go to these events to as none of my current friends want to go to something like this. (Please don't DM after reading this - I will look separately.)

Any advice would be welcome!