After years of letting men use me I finally stood up for myself. I had been dating this guy for awhile, up till today. Everything seemed to be going great, he was nice, we have a lot in common. However, he had asked me for anal on a couple of occasions and I’d say no, he’d drop it. One day last week he asked why and I told him I’ve tried it a couple times with two of my ex’s the first one was ok, and the second it hurt too bad for me to ever want to try again. I know some people love it, I just don’t. He didn’t like that and then today he told me I was being unfair to him by not allowing him to do that, but I let my two ex’s and what he assumes was multiple people before try it. (Which is not the case). He wants to be with a woman who will treat him equally to the men she’s dated before him. He told me “But in all honesty, maybe we shouldn't hang out. One thing my friends and I talk about often with regard to dating is when a girl says ‘I'll do this with other guys, but not with you’ and how generally that should be a stopping point.” I never said I would do it with others, I said I tried it and I never want to again. I just felt used and disrespected, which sucks because we got along so well and then he just had to act like that, trying to push my boundaries of where I feel safe and comfortable. I almost feel as if he was trying to make me feel like I was in the wrong for choosing not to let him try it. Btw he’s never tried it because apparently he is always told he is too big.