I’ve (22F) been having sex since I was 15. Been getting catcalled and hit on since I was 13. I’ve had 10 sexual partners (both male and female) and am in an open relationship. Most guys I’ve encountered make these fucked up subtle comments (or “jokes”) that insinuate an entitlement to my body. I’ve even had experiences with men where I tell them hey, I have a UTI, I have an ovarian cyst, I have really bad cramps, I’m sick, and they say things like “well you’ve got three holes,” “your ass still works,” “you can still jerk me off.” I don’t want to! I feel like shit. I don’t want to jerk you off. Do it yourself. I can’t help but feel that all men are like this. It makes it even worse that every time I’ve had sex with women there is checking in along the way. “Are you okay with this?” “We don’t have to do X if you’re not up to it.” “I’m fine with whatever!” I am a smaller person as well so I always feel this looming threat where I know that the man I’m engaging with could easily overpower me (I’m also an SA victim). How do you respond to this behavior? Do you shame them? Do you just act in your own interest? I never feel like I get through to these men with my responses to their disgusting behavior.