I turn 35 on Monday, and was nearing the 1 year mark of my relationship with my partner. A few months ago we had our first serious talk, I discussed how I don’t feel as emotionally connected as I’d like. We’ve had a wonderful friendship level, but more surface value than I’d like relationship. I have a lot of fun with him, get along with his family, could see my future with him.

When I needed more from him, he wasn’t able to give it. He tried, but it wasn’t enough. He’s emotionally unavailable, it’s clear as day, and I’m very aware of what I need in a relationship. I’ve communicated it directly and given him time to make those changes.

I’m a Mom of 1, I co-parent fine with my child’s father, and this is my first relationship since leaving that. I’ve never had to deal with this with my child, and I’m hoping that eventually him and I can be friends.

He needs to make changes in his life that I can’t make for him. It sucks, and it’s the first breakup I’ve had where something like abuse wasn’t present, so it’s been difficult to finally cut the cord without something so obvious and harsh present.

I’m sad, but I know I did what is right for my life.

“Paying attention is the way we show love”