I slept with my best friend while we were in high school. We always joked about how we were friends with benefits and it was strictly just friends having fun. He didn’t know at the time that I was desperately and madly in love with him. The last time we had sex, I did end up getting pregnant. I had our baby and put him up for adoption as we were both young and I didn’t want to obligate him to me or make him take a different path in life. These are things that he had freaked out about previously when his girlfriend had a scare. Many years later (about 6) he confessed to me that he had always loved me and that he thought he had no chance because I always said we were just fwb. Anyway I’ve been in contact with our son and he wants to know more of his dad, our son knows that his dad doesn’t know about him. I guess my question is should I tell my best friend after all these years? I’m afraid to tell him since he has a wife and 2 kids now.

Update #1: I just got off of the phone with my friend. I told him everything. Apparently he knew that I was pregnant, my friend had let it slip one time. He thought it was his since he knew that I was only sleeping with him. He didn’t know that I had the baby but said he was happy that there’s a part of us together out in the world. He said he’d love to have a relationship with his son and wants me to make arrangements for all of us to meet. Thank you for all of your perspectives and advice. This went way better than I was expecting 💗

Update #2: I’m flying out this weekend to speak with both my best friend and his wife, in particular his wife wanted to speak with me and I thought it would be best if we did it in person. This is our first time meeting. I’ll keep you updated!

Update #3: I met with both of them and posted update in a separate post with same title.