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My boyfriend likes to play video games a lot. I usually have no problem with this. Until he wants to play ALL DAY. Like from the moment he wakes up until like 3 am. Then he sleeps until 2 pm. I am trying to compromise but it’s still not good enough. I said can’t you play until like 5 and we could just grab dinner and he said no because his friend can’t play until 8 and then they’ll play until 3 am. So I said okay then can we hang out until then or at least for a little while tomorrow but he won’t. It’s like all or nothing but somehow I’m the one who isn’t compromising because I don’t want to waste a day and a half? And he said how he bought speakers so I can hear and I do enjoy sitting in sometimes and watching but not for that long. I can’t sit on his bed for 12 hours straight. I don’t know how to solve this. I am not trying to stop him of enjoying his hobbies or of hanging out with his friends because i understand that is how they hang out. Help.
One one question for clarity how frequent is this.
If it's once a week or less. Just call it a boys night and find your own hobby for the day. Everyone needs a day dedicated to themselves. It's healthy.
If it's more than one day a week. Then you need to figure out if this is a boundary you're willing to change. I only would if I was comfortable playing the same games.
If your not going to adjust your current boundary you need to reinforce it. He doesn't get to keep you and neglect you at the same time. Just make it clear that he is choosing video games over the relationship.
You can't control his choices, and it might hurt, but this might be the end of your relationship, but that's probably for the best.
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