Since there isn’t much on the topic, I have taken the liberty to share some of the things that I have learned using the platform for nearly 2 months. My intentions are to prevent people from being scammed, mislead, taken advantage of and most importantly not waste their time. My examples are from my own experience and may not cover everything. Although some may be easily perceived as general common sense, it may still present valuable information to people who are new.

1.) Avoid users who have newly created accounts with low activity (comments,post,etc). Also, through posting and comments you earn Karma, so little to no Karma should also be considered before perusing a new user.

2.) Although anonymity is a concern for many users, poorly edited pictures should be a red flag. This includes blurry pictures, pictures that have scribbled faces (people will resort to this to avoid a picture being searched for authenticity). What seems to be a common practice lately is to include outdated pictures. This can present a challenge with distinguishing the authenticity of the images (having many different looks eg. hair style). In some cases, it can be an entirely different looking person, use your own judgment. Another issue is if you request a couples picture and they aren’t able to present one or try to buy some time by delaying or promising one. Some people will find a unique way to verify pictures, this will be done by holding a thumbs up, covering an eye, peace sign. Note: make sure if your the one verifying to choose the signal not them. Otherwise they can present you with a photo they had in stock. Last option and most effective approach to verify is with the use of face-time.

3.) I would say to be cautious with things that seem to good to be true. Although this can come across as cliché, Its often that male men get a bit too anxious about a situation which leaves them a bit venerable. This could be seen in common post that advertise as F4W, MF4M, Hot Wife, “Come fuck my wife”, etc. All ideal situations for a single horny male. Also, important to note that not all of these situations are fake, just to proceed these post with a degree of caution.

4.) I would be extremely careful with post that suggest if anyone likes to exchange pictures or videos. Some users practice image farming that can latter be used on other sites to impersonate your image and likeness. I also have a theory of people that are often rejected using these photos as a segway for conversation. Past encounters that never conceptualized or rejected entirely. This is unfortunately a part of the game, in reality there are lonely people who are in seek or attention. Although I sympathize with people like this, it can waste time.

5.) This should be a common sense example but don’t send money to anyone under any circumstance. Some people may ask to split room fees and may request a deposit to ensure you show up. They may even present you with an elaborate story of how they were stood up previously and this is just a precaution (DONT, I repeat absolutely not!). Its best to meet up in person, get a good feel for the couple and from there make arrangements to get a room together if the vibe is right. Note: follow your intuition and make an informed decision.

6.)Last suggestion, if you get invited to leave the Reddit platform and continue the conversation on Snap, Kik, Telegram etc. Its best if each participant has their own account so you can talk amongst each other. Be aware of people who say they have a shared account, or never bring up their partner, or have strange behavior like screen shooting (these platforms are to be used to limit exposure to messages). Also, if the partner somehow is never available to join the chat. Every excuse will be used in order to avoid the partner joining the chat (chances are there is not partner).

Overall, i would strongly suggest taking small steps to get to know the person(s). Maybe through conversations and eventually schedule a meetup at a public place. Although Reddit could be a great starting point for connecting, its no substitute for in person interactions. When possible, meet people in person whether through a meet up, drinks, dinner etc., don’t be heavily reliant on online connections. In general be cautious about pushy people (work on your own pace) and people that repeatedly post hours apart from one another. Removing post shortly after creating them is bizarre behavior. Consider not engaging with people who imply early on that they are excessively busy. Chances are that they are too busy for the lifestyle and wont be available when you are, undoubtably will end up wasting your time. Most people are busy, but if your actively seeking an encounter then you need to make sure to be able to be available.

As a community I feel that its important to share some insight or personal accounts/experience to avoid falling for fake/misleading post. So if you have something to share, would be greatly appreciated 😊 (thank you).