One important factor to consider as a single male participating at an upcoming Twist event is to manage your expectations. Having unrealistic expectations on a first time experience may contribute to an unpleasant outcome. From my experience, I have went on a Friday with my partner and conversed with a single male who was very pleasant. It was our first time so we were not looking to open up our relationship. He was a bit shy but started up a conversation, he was polite and charming. So after some conversation, we decided to have a couple drinks together. Latter that night we ran into him again in the play area and he asked if he could play with us. We respectfully declined with it being our first time and he kindly agreed. That same night, another male snuck into the couples only area and tapped on my partner to ask to join mid intimacy. After she declined his proposition, he sat close to us and stroked himself as he watched us having intercourse (was done in poor taste). Something people don’t tell you to prepare for: Being rejected. “Don’t take a rejection as a slight against you but rather as a way for that person to take care of themselves”. My advice for a single man is to try to make arrangements to meet a couple ahead of time if possible to increase the likelihood of success. There are also sites dedicated to this lifestyle that may help in securing a date. Going there alone without much of a plan may present some challenges, especially given how frequently they allow men in there. Keep in mind that admission for men is the most expensive and doesn’t feel as limited as they advertise. This means a lot of competition. Also, although it is a club for swinging, you will find that most wont (at least not there). In conclusion, I can see why some men get a bad rap there, however there are some men worth hearing out. Here are some do and don’t as a single man planning on going to a party. Please share any additional details that may help the gentleman wanting to participate.

Note: There is nothing wrong with single men going these events, please try to be kind and help with general questions when possible. Seems to be a bit of a negative perception with men at these clubs/events (men-help change that).

5 Don’ts for the Swinging Single Guy article. https://openlove101.com/swinging-single-guy/