My husband keeps turning down potential donors and we just don’t agree on anything. His count, motility and quality are too low for a child, and we have been looking for a suitable donor ever since.

Every time I find someone that I want to move forward with he stops me.

At what point is enough enough?

It’s been almost a year now and I don’t think he’ll ever be totally ok with a donor. He’s hung up on so many factors (race, height, hair colour) and doesn’t seem to take my considerations in at all.

We’ve been to a sperm a bank and the only donor that he thought was acceptable was someone I did not want. I gave him many options but he shuts it down.

I don’t know what to do. Am I being unfair? He says it’s a team decision but lately I feel like he’ll make the decision and not take my feelings into account at all.