I can already hear the loud screeching of coomers and poly folk rearing up to bang away at their keyboards, but as this is the place to say such a thing, I'll say it anyway. Despite what poly people will try to tell you, polyamory isn't a "natural" thing for most humans. Monogamous norms, even if culturally engrained, are valid and are more normal to encounter. Most people you meet just won't be cool with the idea of sharing their partners with other people.

I don't actively go out of my way to try to be interested in or date polyamorous people, but poly people usually only find other "poly" people via recruitment. Now, I will say I've met a few poly people who will only pursue interest in people who are also poly, but the overwhelming majority of poly folk I've met haven't been respectful like that in the slightest. They skulk around dating sites/apps acting like they're monogamous, getting people interested in them, and then dropping the bombshell in hopes of convincing them to be poly too. It's so bad that most poly spaces online actively try to encourage their community to do this and share advice on how to best do it.

If this almost cultish recruitment wasn't bad enough, that has nothing on their inflated egos of superiority. How "enlightened" they are now that they're "free of feelings of jealousy" and are always stroking on another off about how much better and fulfilling their "relationships" are than those who are monogamous. It's the veganism of relationships. Yet most poly folks you see have complete dumpster fire relationships where one party is always getting more out of it than the other. How if you change your mind and want to close the relationship after agreeing to it, you're now "toxic" and "controlling". Those "success story" poly relationships people see on TikTok are far from reality. Their online communities are full of posts like "I'm poly and I'm jealous of my partners new partners. How do I stop being jealous?". They're proud on the outside, but are completely miserable on the inside.

If they just kept to themselves and stopped trying to turn mono people poly, none of this would be an issue. They'll claim that mono people try to do the same to them, but that rarely actually happens because mono people run in the other direction when they first reveal what they are.