What is wrong with accepting the fact some people are born very unfortunately and are not attractive physically or have mental health problems which stop you from a romantic relationship. It more unhealthy to put lies in your head and accept false facts. Why would you want someone to put so much effort into trying to date someone when they finally realise it’s nothing they can do. That is most likely to be more harmful than accepting the facts early on. Also incels form Their own communities because that’s the only place where they feel accepted and are around other people with similar experiences. No matter how hard you try somethings are impossible to get. A person who is five foot is not going to be able to become an nba player for example. A person in a wheelchair can’t run. Some things you can’t fix, you just have to accept the facts and move on thank you for reading.