On mobile so please forgive the usual problems.

My husband(35 male) and I(35 female) have married 7 years and are both tradies, he’s an ironworker and I’m a carpenter, mainly a concrete guy. We have a solid relationship and no major issues but sometimes he gets on my nerves when it comes to work. When he’s had a bad day at work, or I have, or any of the combination of shitty things that happen on-site and I try to sympathize and tell him I understand and give advice, his go-to phrase is always “it’s not the same. You’re a woman, you get treated differently.”

At first I let this go because I figured that I probably do get treated differently but I more than likely don’t notice it. But I’ve been in the trades for 5 years now and just journeymaned out and I’m not seeing how I’m treated differently. I do my job and know my trade well, and don’t let the guys carry heavy shit for me or expect them to pick up my slack if I fuck something up. Any crew I’m on knows I’m not sensitive and don’t have to watch what they say around me and I have gotten ass chewed and given just as many shit jobs as my co-workers so I’m now failing to see where I’m getting treated differently. It pisses me off to no end on bad days and he feels like I had an easier time than he would have had in the same situation because I’m a woman.