My mom (47F)had a heart attack in November resulting her to move back to the US and resulting in me (21F) being the one to take care of her. Although she’s very independent she can’t work and is slowly recovering to her old self but in the mean time ive been physically and financially taking care of her. As the oldest sibling, My whole life i was raised with expectations of taking care of my parents when they couldn’t. My entire life i grew up with my mother always saying she’ll move in with me when i’m older and we’ll live together forever… Fast forward, after 2 years of being on my own my mom lives with me, rent is going up, i’m living in front of hell’s front door rn guys. All of this my mom wants to BUY a house together. We just got approved for a loan and i can’t bring myself to tell her i don’t want to do this. i can’t do this. i planned on buying the house and getting an apartment close by for myself but i can’t afford that shit rn man. I don’t want to live with her but i feel so obligated to do so. Also been hesitant about traveling and pursuing my passions bc There’s no one to take care of her or be with her. I can’t drop everything to do my dreams bc i have to be here with her. What if something happens and i’m not there? I’m the only one who is here to make sure she is okay and i’ve always bee. i am my mothers keeper and sometimes i feel like there’s handcuffs keeping us together… i feel so guilty saying all this stuff p.s. if there are other black and brown women who feel this way how are you/how do you handle this???