We are the perfect match in every way except one. But I (24 M) ignored that because I loved her (23 F) so much and still do. But now I feel trapped and don't know what to do and just need a void to vent to.

Sexually we are basically incompatible. She is happy with sex 1-2 times a month, doesn't masturbate, is incredibly vanilla, and still after 5 years together blushes when I say the word sex. I on the other hand would prefer 6-10 times a week or more, am incredibly kinky, and have been bottling all that up for 5 years blaming our lack of a private space on why our sex was so basic and infrequent.

But now with two years married and living in our own place. Trying everything from subtle hints to direct conversations explaining my need for more physical intimacy I am trapped. She simply doesn't have a libido or kinkiness remotely close to me. And there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone is different but I need more physical intimacy but I courted her, I proposed to her, and I promised to be her rock forever. And now I don't know what to do. I still want to be her rock but I can't deny an entire part of myself. And so here I am on an anonymous reddit account screaming into the void because I don't know what to do. I see no way it gets better for me without hurting her...

Edit: So I woke up from my nap and can't possibly respond to everyone so I will try and address what I have seen as major points in the comments/messages I have received.

• I do not think she is broken/wrong for having a lower sex drive and not being kinky. I fully understand that I ignored our incompatibility because I cared for her and this is 100% my own hole I've dug.

• On the flip side I am not wrong either for having the drive that I do. It is part of who I am with my kinks an my drive. Just like suggesting she take drugs to increase hers, taking drugs to kill mine will probably never happen.

• I am probably exaggerating with the 6-10 times a week but even if we hit 2x a week that would be 4-5x our current average and while that would probably be fine for me we've never gotten close.

• For those who suggested I may be selfish in sex and so she doesn't enjoy it. This is a fair point but I am confident not a concern here. A major kink of mine is making my partner orgasm. Especially multiple times if possible. I have never had an issue with this with my current wife or previous partners. I will say with my current wife it has been the most difficult as other then PIV sex she is hesitant to try even basic foreplay let alone toys.

Hopefully this clears somethings up for some people. To everyone that is making honest suggestions thank you. I will take them into consideration and try and see what we can do.