I am 24 years old and my girlfriend is 31 years old. We found out she was pregnant a few weeks ago. We had a long talk about what to do with the child. Although we are not even close to pretending to be ready, we decided to have the child. Her family is excited for us and wishes us the best, my family is devastated. I talked with my family and a lot of emotions were spilled out that night and tears were shed; unfortunately, none were tears of joy. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half in total. We broke up in 2019 and recently got back together in September. We didn't plan for this baby, neither of us intended for this to happen but it is what it is. My girlfriend works at a great job that pays very well and gives full benefits to her. I work 2 jobs and so I work every day from 8 am until 5 pm and I am a very small streamer on Twitch whenever I have the free time for some extra money. Were not lazy people, we both have degrees and work hard. Were not abusive to one another, we don't physically or verbally abuse one another. We are definitely still in the honeymoon phase of our relationship so I can't say for sure how things are going to turn out. We don't live together yet but we've tried looking, it's just incredibly expensive where we live so we have had no luck. My girlfriend lives with her cousin and her cousin said she doesn't mind moving out to let me move in so we can prepare for the baby in the 1 story 2 bedroom home they are renting. Her family and co-workers are very happy for us but my family was devastated when I told them. I only told my dad at first just because I needed to know family medical history, like a history of cancer, or diabetes, things like that, for the doctors. My dad went behind my back and told my mother while I was at work. I didn't tell her at the time because I wasn't sure how to tell her. She cried and displayed every negative emotion after she found out. After a few days when everyone simmered down and we were able to talk with calm emotions me and my family talked. Quickly the tears started pouring out from my mother. She expressed her huge disappointment in me and tells me this isn't the life she wanted for me, and reminded me that im going about this in the completely wrong order. She told me she feels as if she has completely failed as a mother because she didn't do a better job at preparing me, to educate me to avoid this. My sister told me if she was put in a position where she had to save the baby, she wouldn't even lift a finger to help. My father tried to remain calm and be the glue to hold the conversation together but he only expressed that he didn't want me to be a deadbeat father. Essentially they called me a disappointment and said that I am too young and not ready for the burden and stress and responsibility of parenting. Me and my girlfriend only just began dating again and we don't even live together so we don't even know if we are really compatible for one another let alone to raise a baby. That I don't know anything about this girl or her family or what their actually like. These are all valid points and im making an effort to be more knowledgeable and more responsible. I know they are right and they mean well with all the advice and warning they gave me. It doesn't change the fact that it hurt hearing them cry and call me a disappointment. I am excited and calm, and joyful at the thought of even holding this baby and I know my girlfriend is equally excited to have a family, but we know this isn't going to be easy. We know we're going to be challenged and our strengths and weaknesses and our relationship will be tested and heavily strained. However, we are still very excited for this.

TLDR: my girlfriend is pregnant and my family is devastated.