My former partner was controlling, manipulative and narcissistic. She would gaslight me, object to any female friend. We once had an argument, she left the house, I followed and went to a good friend's home (who was female). Later when she found out, she accused me of sleeping with this friend - despite never having having any kind of evidence that would ever happen. Funnily enough the relationship ended when she started seeing the banjo player in a local band, moved me out and him in. But this post isn't about her.

This post is about my partner. She's brilliant in all kinds of ways, free spirited without being walked over. She is fearsome and gentle in the same breath. I told her I was seeing a friend today, someone who I had previously slept with but we maintain a platonic long distance friendship. And she was cool with it. I had been so nervous telling her. Having that trust with her is an amazing feeling. It is like day and night. She could be the one.