TL DR: I dream of a world were we just be there for people and not subject them to harsh and unnecessary criticism.

I'm aware this is not a throwaway account. I have no need nor shame to hide behind my thoughts. My story is my story. I have no fear of random, faceless people.

For context: I just read a post about a couple who returned a kitten to the shelter and the worker thought their reason was weird so of course she posts to reddit.

I often read posts on any sub how people feel someone's actions are deemed to be judged by them. Not hearing from the other side, people take sides, most often the side of the op. Then I've read the other side and there is lots the op left out when they posted. It grinds my gears!

Op, why did you bash people for doing the thing shelters want you to do? I'd rather they do that than leave it to the streets. So they thought they could own a kitten, they can't, they returned it. If shelters accepted pets without asking reasons for bringing it there then judgemental assholes won't run to reddit about it. I see how homeless people have to give up their pets and they ask why and the person literally stood there and cried because they lost their home. Who was it? Me! I had to do that!!! Then I'm judged irresponsible and a poor parent because I lost my home! (Incidentally, we were evicted. See my pos ex, wasn't paying the rent with the money I GAVE HIM and hid the eviction notices until literally 2 days before the sheriff came. He had a place to go, I didn't and the dog was mine as I came into the relationship with him). I wish I could've just said I can't take him with me and left it at that but the nosy worker asked why and kept asking until I fucking broke down and said I was homeless. I've seen where people gave up pets because they were too old to care for the pet. I've seen pets given up because they were too old. Rather they go to the shelter than the streets cuz then you'd be talking about how some asshole left a kitten on the streets. Just say a sweet 4 month old was returned and we're excited to rehome him. Quit judging someone's reason of doing the thing they SHOULD do.

There is no pleasing this world. Do the right thing, judged why you're doing it. Do the wrong thing, judged for doing it. When will we just say: damn that a tough choice to make. I'm here for you. I saw my sister give up child to a loving family and she's judged for that. She already has 4 kids, wasn't ready for another and did the right thing. Where is she? Hospitalized for a suicide attempt because assholes judged her decision! She did the right thing, yet she's told how despicable she is for being irresponsible (it takes 2 to get pregnant yet the drunk ex of hers who forced her to sleep with him is scott free), getting pregnant again and being blah blah blah, she felt her only recourse was to take the only parent her other 4 kids have and leave them without a mom!

Do the world a favor and just be empathetic! You don't have to understand why, just support people! Hell, you don't even have to know why, just support people!!! Stop judging people! Go ahead and downvote me to hell. I'd rather be downvoted to hell than upvoted for not helping my fellow man stand and hold their head high. And we wonder why there is so much depression and anxiety with our generation!