My boyfriend early on in our relationship disclosed a kink of his to me. It’s not a harmful kink or anything super weird but it’s not one I find myself attracted to or even willing to try at all. I’m fully supportive of him practicing it in private and hell I’d let him find an occasional partner to help with it but I fear he may be trying to include me. Our relationship is genuinely amazing, we communicate well and he’s just perfect for me. Our sex life isn’t AS amazing being that we both need a little work but overall it’s ok.

His kink makes me uncomfortable or at least some of the props he gets to do it with does. It involves lots of silicone which I don’t like personally. Today he joked a few times that I’d have to assist him with part of it and I genuinely didn’t know how to respond being that I don’t know how to explain I don’t want to be apart of it without risking our entire relationship.

I will never judge him for this or discourage his wanting to do it but it isn’t a part of him that I can join in on.