when I was a teenager, I was sexually assaulted and sodomized multiple times by a 20-something year old man I met on a dating app. we went on a date that seemed to never end, but I finally got the courage to ask him to leave the place I was house sitting. I said I had to go home because my parents were worried, and I’d check in when I got there. luckily, he didn’t have my address because I was the one who drove us around. shortly after, I told my friend (I became withdrawn and depressed, didn’t reach out much to her) and she admitted he did the same to her. I didn’t tell her his name, I only described what he did. she replied and asked: “did [name] do this to you?” I said yes. we planned to file a police report together, but I was told we couldn’t since the assaults happened in different counties. I filed a report in my county, I don’t know if she filed a report in hers. through social media I came to find out about another person he had assaulted, and then another person. including me, that brought the tally up to four. at least four people that have been sodomized by him. I told her about this, and we decided to all get together and file one big report. we didn’t want him to be able to hurt anyone else. my friend and I hung out a few more times before losing contact. she was struggling with addiction for a bit, and then really turned things around. became a counselor, was sober three years. I found out recently that she committed suicide. I searched up the man who raped us, and he’s in a long term relationship with a job he loves and a car that’s beautifully wrapped. I feel like I failed my friend. I feel like my friend will never get justice. I want him to take accountability for this now more than ever.

tldr; my friend and I were sodomized by the same person who turned out to be a serial rapist, I filed a police report but nothing came of it, and she ended up killing herself.