Yes personality matters too but I can’t stand when I see others shame someone for saying they aren’t physically attracted to someone. That’s okay. It’s two checkboxes; body and mind. The body is based on looks and decided within seconds of seeing someone, we really have no control over this. The mind/personality part obviously takes more time to sort out. To me, and to most, if someone doesn’t check both they have no interest in being with them. Some claim that look attraction changes after getting to know someone, for me personally this has never happened and never would. For most I’ve spoken with on the subject it’s the same.

THAT IS OKAY. That is normal. That is not shameful or shallow. The great thing is types exist and someone’s 4 is another’s 7. Seriously looks matter people, it’s okay. That’s not to say be cruel in how you may reject someone but just understand looks are important.