It sucks to admit it. The girl who family zoned me is very nice. I was really into her because of her personality. I got really close to her even while she had a boyfriend. They broke up like 2 months ago and fell under a deep depression. (She had finals, and stuff going on at home). I knew that if I got too close to her I’d eventually get sibling zoned specially during a time like this. I never told her how I felt because it was never the right time. I took her out and was there for her because I wanted her to have someone.

I talked to a friend we had in common about my feelings and she told me that unfortunately males tend to easily fall and get attached to their close friends. She told me to let go but I felt something special about her. She also said that if her best friend ever did something like that to her she would feel betrayed.

She first cousin zoned me and I didn’t even ask her out nor talk about my feelings. She said we were like cousins. And she has sent memes which stated “2 people meet in college and act like siblings”. It feels like I’m being family zoned and I know this is really immature on my part but I kinda don’t know what to do. Rn it seems like I’m going to have to take it to the grave with me but my family keeps bothering me about her.

It kinda sucks but I’ve been trying to slowly distance myself from her. I stopped sending her memes and use my time in the gym as an excuse to not have time to talk.

In a way it’s also good because I realized if I’m not at work or at school, I have no one or anything looking forward to me. Videogames don’t cut it anymore. They don’t hit the same as they use to.

Also every time I did something nice for her I didn’t do it because I wanted her to date me. I would ask myself “if she were still together with her ex, would I still take her out?” And the answer was yes. Because I still would’ve worried for her mental health just the same. Because that’s what real friends do. They take care of each other when one’s at their lowest point. And I knew what the outcome of my actions would be.

I also wasn’t aware of her situation with her ex for a bit. I didn’t know she was losing feelings for him. So I was planning on distancing myself this year because I knew my feelings for her could affect their relationship. Then I noticed they had broken up and I chose to stay not because I wanted to take advantage of her but because I genuinely care for her well being. I noticed her hurt and everything else going on with her. Anyways that’s it. Back to the gym.