So my wife confirmed cheating on me Friday. We stayed up all night back and forth about pain, guilt, and she ended up deciding to go to inpatient treatment for mental health.

She’s working on herself, and I’m trying to do the same. She says she still wants to stay married, and today is our 11 year anniversary of being together.

Tomorrow she is getting discharged and when I spoke to her on the phone she forgot it was our anniversary. I kinda blew up about the whole situation and started with the “what can I do to be better? Why did you do that? How could you do that?”

It ended on a better note, but how can I stay out of my own head to give her the support she needs, while also working on myself and being the best dad I can be?

Why do I still love her? Yeah, I’m very angry. I thought of cheating to “make things even” but I don’t know if that’s the right answer either.

I am seeing a therapist, but with thanksgiving on Thursday I won’t speak with that person until next week.

How can I not be so in my head and all about me and how I feel? Cause that’s only going to drive the divide.