Several years back I was in a relationship with my dream girl, friends for years, and a wild spark filled relationship once we had the opportunity. Three years in and she changed for the worse, pulling away, using me for my money. So I called it off and rightfully so. I didn’t understand what changed in her but she wouldn’t let me try to understand.

Right after that breakup a co-worker that knew nothing of my situation started drunk texting me in the middle of the night, confessing their attraction. She was hot. I said fuck it as I’ve got nothing to lose. That turned into a 2.5 year relationship and engagement that eventually dissolved after mutual conversations and realizing the age gap and other issues at hand were too much. We’re great friends still and support each other. But, this person is transgender MTF and unless you were told so, you’d likely never know or have a suspicion.

Fast forward to this week. Former dream girl reached out to my mother on social media and asked for my number. She feels like shit for how she treated me and how things went down. We talked for hours over several days, met up once for lunch, everything was looking strong for a rekindling of things and her expressing her undying love for me. I had wondered long enough that I said fuck it, see what happens. Then, while answering some questions about what all happened during our gap I mentioned that my ex was trans. Dream girl turned into a self-righteous & hypocritical bitch immediately.

Former Dream Girl is bi-sexual (as am I and she knew this before), cheated on every single guy she’s been with including me (I found out after we broke up), and has done enough that she has no room to talk. But she eventually told me that she could never be in a romantic relationship with me again because I was in a relationship with a transgender person and she doesn’t approve of that lifestyle and was raised Christian. Before I met her she was doing cocaine and 8 balls while driving to the beach in her 30s with friends (told me herself), a raging alcoholic, and a shitty person (She wasn’t any of those things when we started dating). So for her to be like that caught me off guard and really fucking hurt.

I’ve never been made to feel like a 2nd class human, like I’m tarnished, because of who I loved. I was the most amazing and supportive boyfriend to her for years, always loyal, always by her side. And now she’s does this… At least I have closure.

I still cant get over it and feel like shit now, wondering if the next person will shoot me down too. I wont lie to someone and I wont hide my past.