Using this account as there's mention of NSFW material, little warning

Let me explain the title. I have had a big forehead and a high hairline since birth. It doesn't help that I seem to be developing widow's peaks and my head is shaped like an upside down egg, I fucking hate it so much. It just makes it look so much worse. I've taken some steps such as getting hair product to give my hair more volume and stay in place on windy days, which gives me slightly more confidence when walking outside, instead of looking like an idiot wearing a hoodie up on a bright sunny day just cause it's windy. I can't even fathom approaching a girl anymore and asking her out, as I fear they'll just see me as a freak, and I can't break out of my shell. I write myself off before I've even tried and that's because I've tried and I'm 80% convinced this is the reason why. There's just so many taller, better looking guys out there and that's all that seems to matter nowadays. Even if it weren't the case, looks peak interest about personality, and I look ugly as shit. I know it sounds like I'm a loop of self pity, and that's because I am, and I hate it but I can't break out of this shell.

But then there's the part that I hate. To be clear, I'm not tooting my own horn, but I have a fairly decently sized penis, and I know that is a huge insecurity amongst men nowadays. So it just feels like I don't get to feel bad, as I have something that the majority of men, well, would very much like to have but unfortunately can't change, and who some might even take over having nice hairline genetics.

I've also seen a gentleman in a wheelchair a few times while studying at the library, and every time I see him I tell myself that I'm in no place to complain and that I should be grateful for what I have that others want, which I am, but I can't help wanting a proper hairline and it bugs me.

I suppose it's all about perspective I guess huh? Like that video about the bicycle, the bus stop, and the car. We focus so much on what others have that we don't take the time to recognize what we do have.

What do you guys think? What should I change about my mentality? Is it alright to invalidate ny own feelings out of guilt?