It has been 10 months since my wife dumped her psychologist, but by the time there were major warning sirens it was too late. She's still attached to her abuser, her mind is fragmented, she no longer feels empathy, and says "the me is not there any more". That "me" was what she loved about herself, and frankly what everyone adored about her.

It's getting harder and harder, and she's pulling back from human contact more and more. She's been suicidal this entire time (not when she went to see the psychologist, but after). It's Iike watching a slow motion murder, while slow motion trying to stop it. I don't know who's going to win, and my heart is breaking/broken.

*** Please don't suggest we get her "professional help". Anything related to that is a major posttraumatic distress trigger, and any such contact would be really harmful right now.