I’m a bit of a people pleaser but I feel like I have to or God will punish me for not being kind etc. For example my personal trainer at the gym will always ask me for next months money paid early, he’s in a lot of debt from what I know.

I stick to my guns and say no, I genuinely don’t have the money as it’s nearly payday. But he keeps going on and last month he said he was sick and needed medicine but couldn’t afford it so I felt bad therefore I sent him the money.

Today he’s now asking again, I’ve told him I’m skint until payday but that won’t suffice. He told me that his tire popped and needed a bit of money towards a taxi and I sent him it. I know I sound silly, I’m very confident and high self esteem etc but I just feel like if I don’t do it etc I’ll end up being punished for not helping a neighbour out. If it was some randomer it’s a bit easy to say no but I have rapport with him