Hi, I’m feeling depleted because 3 months ago my boyfriend who was my best friend of 3 years broke up with me. We were in an LDR relationship, but he lost patience and hope for our future.

I don’t do close friendships with guys. If God wants me to marry I want my future husband to be my only guy best friend and I to be his only girl best friend.

I’m heartbroken because my ex developed friendship with a girl who he now labels as his best friend, and he caught romantic feelings for her. He doesn’t love the Lord so I know that the breakup is God’s blessing in a way, but it still hurts because I don’t know if I can move on from our friendship.

It hurts to pray for the salvation of both of them, and for blessing over their unofficial relationship. Their situation got weird and I feel caught up, because now my ex turns to me as I am his “safe space”.

I don’t want him to feel lonely but it’s really hurting me that I am no longer his best friend and that his romantic interest is no longer with me. I don’t know if I should do no contact for the sake of moving on. My concern is he doesn’t feel like he’s got a true friend right now so he turns to me. He’s not trying to get back to me and I’m not hoping for us to get back together. However, I feel hurt by the situation and I need to move on too.

Can I move on from an unequally yoked relationship? Will the pain of losing a boyfriend who was also your best friend, ever stop?