We have a good relationship, she's been very supportive of me over the threeish years I've been out. We live two hours away and the family hasn't really been all that close since my father passed, my sister lives close but their relationship is strained. In my mom's loneliness and grief she found her faith again and began reattending church -- first the lutheran one I was wrung through as a child, until she found them to be catty and standoffish, and now has began going with my aunt to an evangelical church, instead. It sounds like she enjoys it there, the people are friendly, the songs are fun to sing, there's coffee and no collection plate and you can wear whatever you want!

And she wants to take me there next time I'm in town.

I understand religion is beginning to take a bigger place in her life again, and I want to respect her and the way she finds community and deals with grief in the wake of dad passing. She knows I haven't been a fan of Christianity for a long time, and in many ways am still dealing with the trauma of being raised in that environment. I know she isn't trying to hurt me, but I know that the church isn't where I want to be and, in all likeliness, the church isn't gonna want me to be there, either. Not as myself, anyway.

I don't think it's unfair of me to say it's not my jam, but I also want to support my mom. Is it worth giving it a try? I'd only go once, I wouldn't be joining regardless of how I'm treated -- and if they're assholes to me, maybe that will be a nudge to her to find somewhere else. Even in that case, though, I don't want to spoil this, even more than I don't want to risk my mom falling into evangelism. What do I do?