Majority of people who claim to be allies or even the tucutes who try to claim to be us only ever want to talk about the social aspects of being trans.

When dysphoria is brought up it feels very washed down and softened. “I don’t feel comfortable in my original body” or “Trans people don’t feel as though they’re gender matches their body’s sex” the hard details never get discussed.

I get that cis people aren’t going to understand what sex dysphoria feels like but they don’t even let us talk about it because it’s apparently too much or exaggerated. It’s frustrating hearing people talk about it as though it wasn’t debilitating.

Yea, my dysphoria got so bad that I tried to cut off my chest myself and had to be rushed to the ER and I overdosed on medication to try to feel something other than the crawling in my skin. The abuse of alcohol and recreational/prescription drugs among trans people is a major problem. But I can’t talk about it when the topic of trans people come up without it triggering someone who doesn’t even have this condition.

“Misgendering makes people uncomfortable because it doesn’t match who they are” This doesn’t explain anything!! Talk about the headaches it causes, the cold sweats, the racing of the heart. Why can’t the details be discussed?

Am I wrong for wanting these conversations to get detailed? I want others to know exactly what dysphoria can feel like so they’d have a better picture on what it is.

It’s like whenever I hear someone talk about autism as though there’s no downside to the actual condition. Every problem someone who’s trans or autistic has is purely social when that’s absolutely not true. I grew up seeing my sister and father struggle because of being on the spectrum so when people just so happen to leave out those parts it feels disingenuous. It’s the same when people talk about what being trans is.

I don’t care that it makes people uncomfortable to talk about the bad parts. These are things that need to be said when discussing it.