So I am afab nb transmasc on T and eventually down the road seeking top surgery. I'm also ENM and matched on tinder with a friend's partner who I met a year ago. At that time they were fem presenting and used she/her pronouns. I didn't know that they would be aggressively pursuing being more masc presenting, labeling themselves NB and seeking top surgery.

So in the 2 weeks that we were talking they cut their hair and completely changed how they dress. Which I've been with more masc presenting people before but it's more like hook ups because relationship wise it's not really my cup of tea. I was going to see how this went though. I had said I only like ambiguous or male terminology for my genitalia. Idk if they forgot or completely disregarded that because they said pussy several times when we hooked up. Idk I like my masc4masc hookups to be more broke back mountain if you know what I mean and I just didn't like the dynamic.

All of this has just made me completely lose interest. I don't want to discourage them in their gender journey and don't know if the terminology thing is worth bringing up since it's not the stand alone reason and discussing it won't change how I feel. Do you guys think I should explain that I'm not into them anymore with the gender expression change and whatnot or do I just say it's not clicking for me and leave it at that? An I don't like to not explain, but I feel like it would do them more harm than good.