So I came out about a year ago after realizing I’ve lived my entire life for other people and no idea who “I” really was. The thought that kicked it all off was simply “Why am I even straight though? That’s dumb, I could see myself with anyone I’m just ‘supposed’ to be straight.” which of course took me down the gender questioning road and after a year and a whole lotta realizations here we are!

Thing is, I’ve been so “in” the changes that it’s sometimes hard to notice them until things like this happen:

My best friends, a trans man, was visiting me and ended up venting a bit. He was having problems with his fiancé but he was having trouble communicating the issue. Finally, he kinda gave up and just blurted out “He’s just such a… such a straight cis white man!”

Reflexes took over and I clutched my chest and groaned, like that’s ALL that needed to be said. Eventually he left but I couldn’t stop thinking about that reaction I had. Like, holy crap, I couldn’t IMAGINE going back to that. So constricting, so inflexible, so… boring! Talked to my wife about it and she enthusiastically agreed that even she’s been much happier since I came out.

TL;DR - We LOVE cis straight white men… but oh man I could never do that again 🤣